I think you might be on to something here!
We never “formalized” this realization.
Carlos made Jadey leave her friends and family. Which she said wasn’t all that hard, because she had traveled to another country to be with the group.
But he still asked.
Cholita had to have a real job, which Carlos gave to her. And give up smoking. And cut her hair short.
He gave Tony Karim a task too, which Tony refused so he’s now a confused chubby church leader in Mexico.
He asked a private class to “Walk to San Diego”, which is 110 miles. Starting right after class.
No one did. All gone now except Cholita, Jadey, and me.
He also told everyone, including people at workshops, to go outside and shout “INTENT!!!” to signal a desire to learn to be silent.
And let’s not forget the intensely complicated Devil’s Weed rituals.
Which resulted in talking lizards!
Maybe that’s why I could never get Minx to speak in his lizard form.
No ritual, no reward.
It’s how intent works.
So possibly it’s a good idea to emphasize to new people, something which requires they take at least a little real action to signal they’re serious.
Like find your silence stones yourself.
Which could include online shopping.
That’s modern “gathering”, out of our biological drive to hunt and gather.
To be silly, we could make a list of “Awful Sorcery burdens to take on so as to prove to the spirit that you’re serious”.
Let them pick one!
Read all 17 books.
Walk 50 miles to a mountain.
Have sex with a scary witch.
Ditch your friends and family forever.
Or, go find some rocks that fit between your fingers.